Updated: May 29, 2018
We’ve heard the countdown on many James Bond and action movies, 5,4,3,2,1...
Since the moment Eve took the bite of the fateful apple in the Garden, women have felt the sting of comparison, doubting their abilities, their talents, their strengths, their beauty, and their capabilities.
There’s this setting in our mind that sets off a self deconstruct mode when something makes us feel less, not included, or discarded. When we feel rejected by a person or group, when we see other women we’d love so much to look like or BE like. We begin to sink little by little, telling ourselves we’re not strong like we thought, beautiful like we thought, worthy or deserving. When what we desire is just not (yet) within reach, it is inevitable, we give up, we hit the self-destruct switch.
It’s more natural for us as ladies, to battle rejection with negativity which leads to retreat. When we do not get the job, promotion, the man, the invite....our first instinct is to immediately self destruct. We allow our thoughts to go there, to destroy our own self worth and proclaim defeat. We say to ourselves, “I suck...I've made too many mistakes...my life is a mess....my hair is too this/that…my waistline too….” We could go on and on destroying our beautiful selves.
Is it even possible to switch this mental setting in our brains to battle hardships in life with positivity?
When your friends choose to invite someone new into their circle and leave you out, instead of negative response, choose happiness for the new girl...she may really need friends...something tragic may be around her bend and this group could be her support.
The promotion is not yours but Bobby Joe in accounting is blessed instead. Instead of pilfering through the whys and what the heck’s...pray for him, you do not know his needs what God is doing in his or his families life.
God says all things happen for a reason and in season.
So why do we throw tantrums like we can change the course of our lives anyway?
We are wasting precious time every single day, in choosing this negativity and self-destruction.
Instead of feeling less than because the-what seemed so perfect beautiful man-is not interested in you, ask God to bless him anyway. Ask God to still your heart and grow your faith until the man HE has been molding for YOU busts through the door of your life.
Accept the hardships as they come, be stronger than you have been, but pray with all your might that God will give you a heart and love for yourself like God loves & values YOU.
No more self-destruction. When the countdown begins, allow it to end in praise and glory to God, for it is in Him that we find our worth, beauty and significance.
Oh yes, one more thing. Let’s not forget that Satan nudges us toward the self-destruct button, Ephesians 6:12 says, “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.”
We have been given the ability and power to fight against this darkness and our weapon is God’s Truth, His mighty Word. Our amazing Bible is full of promises that remind us continually that He is with us in our afflictions, in our circumstances, when we feel we do not matter. The Truth is YOU matter to Him, YOU are never alone and YOU are incredibly loved by our incredible GOD!
Isaiah 43:4 Since you are precious and honored in my sight and because I LOVE YOU, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life.